It can be difficult when a relationship ends, especially if it has been long-term or ends on bad terms. Your emotions are all over the place and it might even appear that there is no light at the end of the tunnel, if they suggest breaking up. But wait, let’s take a look at the top five ways to get over a breakup and you too can move on and be happy again with or without a partner.
Do You – The first thing you want to do is, “Do You”. In case you don’t know what that means, you are simply recovering. Get yourself a long-overdue makeover (new hair color / cut, try a new makeup, maybe eyelash extensions), go shopping and buy some new outfits, join a gym and start looking great. again; We call this “revenge corps.” Yeah, so next time I see them, they’ll say, “Wow, you look fantastic!” No, we don’t want their attention, but we want them to know that life goes on, not to mention that you will feel great and look wonderful.
Just taking the time to put your personal life in perspective will do wonders for your mind, body, and soul. Eliminate all those negative feelings and start thinking about a brighter and happier future. Remember, it all starts from the inside out, so cleanse yourself and eliminate all bad habits.
Clean House – Cleaning the house has always worked for me, and you don’t have to wait for spring to do a spring cleaning. If any of your ex’s items were left at your house, get rid of them. Rearrange your furniture, change the paint color in your bedroom, redo the bathroom (changing the color scheme with towels and some new accessories is an inexpensive but great way to spruce things up). Just make a few kinds of changes. You will be surprised how happy you will be when you return home to see your new and improved living space.
Dating – Sometimes while in relationships, we stop hanging out with our friends, we don’t hold meetings, or heck, we don’t even talk to our friends that often. Well now that the deadlift is gone, reach out to your friends, socialize, and have fun. Yes, you may have to apologize for not being around, but we all know what it’s like when your partner really doesn’t want you to go out with your single friends and we’ve all tried to please them at some point. If they are true friends, they will understand and accept your apology.
Cut ties: One of the worst things about breaking up is when your ex wants to remain friends with you. Even if it wasn’t a bad breakup, there’s no need to call each other and be friends. After all, if things were that good, you wouldn’t have broken up, right? Better to have a final discussion to tie up loose ends and then cut ties.
If there are kids involved (not together), let them know that even though you’re breaking up, you still care and will be there for them, if that’s the case. If there are family members you have joined with, let them know that you are still around, but will not be at all family functions or “chilling out” with the family. There is nothing worse than seeing the ex with his new girl. Even though you don’t want them back, deep down it’s a bit awkward, so choose not to attend every family function.
That does not mean cutting off the family. Sometimes we form strong ties with family members and we don’t want to end it; after all, we broke up with the man / woman and not with the family. The flip side of that is that you don’t want to appear all the time like you’re thirsty for their attention. I mean, attend things like birthday parties or informal gatherings, but avoid more intimate gatherings like Christmas and Thanksgiving.
Start over: One of the worst things we can do after a breakup is hold on to the negatives and use them to keep someone new from getting too close. First, never judge the next person by the actions of the last person, it’s not great. Second, take your time dating again, ask questions, and listen to what the person is talking about. Sometimes if we just listen we can learn a lot about a person, even the things they don’t want us to know seem to slip away if they are not the right person.
Lastly, if you meet someone, there is no need to rush into anything. If your last relationship ended peacefully or if you had to obtain a restraining order to remove them, do not prejudge others for their past experiences. Take your time and never let anyone coerce you or make you feel guilty for not moving faster than you are. If a person is not willing to take it easy, they are not the right person for you.
You may have to go to several bad apples before you find the right one, or you may be happy alone, but trust and believe, the ball is in your court and you are the boss. Using the top five ways to get over a breakup will lessen heartbreak and ease tension, and make dating fun and not stressful.