Part of life is accepting that not all relationships and friendships are meant to last forever. People mature at different rates, change hobbies, meet more compatible friends, move, grow up, develop a backbone, go backwards, forwards, and fall out or fall in love with other people.
“Laughter is by no means a bad beginning to a friendship, and it is by far the best ending to one.” Oscar Wilde
Sometimes it’s better to move on. A study by researchers at the University of Missouri found that on-and-off relationships can have toxic psychological consequences.
The following tips are for when you or the other person is having a hard time moving on, so you can do it as peacefully as possible.
1) Forgive yourself and him or her if you feel resentment or guilt. It’s normal to take a while to truly feel forgiveness, but be persistent. You don’t always need to tell the other person that forgiveness is for you. Do you feel guilty about ending it? Maybe it’s for the best so that person has the freedom to meet more compatible people.
2) Meditate on the lesson you were meant to learn from the situation and also on accepting it, which can help you work through the pain, regret, and other difficult emotions.
3) Replace any grievances, regrets, or other negative emotions with gratitude for the experience and future possibilities.
4) Try to perceive the situation less emotionally and more practically and logically. For example, is this someone you never got to know very well, or even a stranger? If so, your mind might be thinking of him or her as a target to fill a love or sex void. Tell yourself that this person may not even be a match or may have led to some of the good things your mind hoped for. It’s time to make room for the future and someone new.
5) Sometimes it is necessary to spiritually block someone, especially when you feel the need to protect yourself against someone who is not being rational or respectful. http://www.lovelifeandspirituality.com/how-to-spiritually-block-someone/
6) Communicate psychically. Did it end before you had a chance to talk? Use these steps to express unspoken words from Stephen’s book Your Love Life and Reincarnation:
Express your true feelings to someone to whom you did not have the opportunity or the courage. Use this meditation just before you go to sleep at night.
1. Surround yourself with white light.
2. Thank God, your guides and angels of Light, and/or your Higher Self for guidance and protection.
3. Visualize the person you want to give a message to as clearly as possible. Imagine a beam of pink light connecting your heart chakra with theirs.
4. Tell this person, compassionately, what you want to say (“I feel the need to tell you…”). This is spiritual communication, not physical, so the other person can be anywhere and still receive the message from them on a subconscious level.
5. Complete the message with the following: “I surround you with white light and I thank you (or forgive you).” If forgiveness is appropriate, it is important to feel forgiveness and release the person. Holding on to resentment will hurt you. Let them go in peace.
6. Important: After the meditation, completely disconnect from this person. Visualize the ray of pink light dissolving and return fully to your own energy. Visualize a bright white light of protection surrounding and cleansing you and this other person and separating your energy from theirs.
7) Ask for help, and be specific, from whomever you pray to. Your intent is more important than the wording of your application, but be sure to keep your intent aligned with the highest good for everyone involved. Here is an example that you can use as-is or customize: “God, guides and angels of Light and/or Higher Self, please allow me to gain the awareness I need through this meditation and through my dreams and daily insight.” to move. alone peacefully from this situation. Please help me to forgive and release myself and ____________ (and everyone else). Please make your guidance clear and concise so that I can easily understand, interpret and receive it. I thank you and am grateful for your assistance.”
“New clothes are a great way to cope after a breakup. A good mix CD gets you through it too, and… you know, 72 hours of ice cream.” Jennifer loves Hewitt
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