Maybe you thought you were straight, but every once in a while the idea of being with someone of the same sex pops into your mind and turns you on. This often leads a person to wonder if he is homosexual and possibly has been denying her urges all his life. According to studies conducted by sex researcher Alfred Kinsey, it is common for both men and women to have same-sex fantasies despite being heterosexual.
There is a natural curiosity that exists in all people. When we are children it is more prominent and accepted. As a person matures, their curiosity is often suppressed by those in power. The result is a society full of people who are afraid to ask questions and are called “unintelligent” or “weird” for doing so. Having same-sex fantasies is natural. A person’s psychological self wonders if those fantasies might satisfy other needs that may not be being met in their normal life. Being homosexual is not a personal choice; it is predetermined by our genetic makeup. Those who decide that they prefer to be with the same sex in the last moments of life have simply suppressed their true feelings before that moment, but they secretly knew that it was not enough for them.
Having sexual fantasies can benefit a relationship. For heterosexual couples, it has become more common for multiple couples to participate at once. If couples choose to express their fantasies with each other, it opens the door for them to try new things involving other people. There is nothing wrong with the occasional fantasy. Couples often feel closer by having sexual curiosity and needs met that they would not normally be able to. Some couples will even start out in role play scenarios where one or the other acts as the opposite sex. Sexual fantasies create a world of possibilities that many couples decide not to take advantage of.
If you’re not sure if your sexual fantasy is just fantasy or repressed feelings, you’ll need to think in literal terms. While it’s easy to fantasize about being with a person of the same sex, would you really? Could you really make up your mind to do or enjoy the events in your fantasy? Many people find the answer to this by “experimenting” with someone of the same sex. Be a friend with whom you feel most comfortable expressing your possible feelings. Before embarking on any experimental sex, it’s best to set boundaries and a safe word if a person isn’t comfortable with something going on. Expressing your sexuality and sexual fantasies is healthy for the mind, body, and soul.
