I often get emails and comments on my blog from women who feel that their husbands no longer love them or that they are no longer “in love” with them. These women are rightly worried. They feel a distance and a coldness in their marriage and feel that their husbands have left. Women often intuitively know that this leaves their marriage highly vulnerable to external stressors that could seriously damage or even end it. Very often, I hear comments like “We are more like brother and sister than husband and wife”, or “my husband never shows me any affection anymore”, or “my husband doesn’t pay attention to me”, or “I don’t think my husband anymore”. He loves me and I’m afraid he’s thinking about leaving or getting a divorce.”
I never tell these women that I think they are wrong, because if you perceive your marriage to be lacking in closeness and intimacy, chances are your intuition is correct. Also, it’s better to go ahead and be proactive and improve things than just wait and see what happens. Every marriage can benefit from efforts to improve it. So, in this article, I will explain some of the best ways to make your husband fall in love with you again. Because a marriage in which two people are in love lasts much longer than a marriage that has grown cold. And, it’s a healthier, happier and more fulfilling environment for everyone involved. If your husband is deeply in love with you, her actions will ensure that you in turn are more loving towards him, thus creating a positive cycle in which everyone’s needs are met.
Why husbands fall out of love: But first things first. I need you to understand what makes a man “fall in love” with his wife and what can also cause the opposite to happen. A lot of wives don’t believe me when I say this, but it’s true. Usually, a man will fall in love with the way you can make him feel about himself. When a man sees the attraction, appreciation, and respect reflected in his wife’s eyes, he feels that he is worthy, desirable, and competent. It has less to do with how you look, or how young you are, or even your personal appearance, than it does with your enthusiasm and willingness to invest your time and your time in him and in the marriage.
I have interviewed many men who have strayed from their marriages in my research and almost all of them say the same thing. I often hear things like “I want my wife to look at me like she did when we first went out,” or “I’m always last on her to-do list,” or “I really want my wife to notice everything.” things”. things I do for our family and don’t just look at me as a paycheck.
Often when I tell wives this, they are really surprised, because their husbands don’t indicate any of these things. Usually, instead of saying something like, “Honey, could you make some time for me? I miss you,” a husband will stay quiet, get frustrated, and eventually shut down. Unfortunately, husbands are less likely to communicate and express their feelings and more likely to withdraw.
It is a very difficult cycle. Wives today are very busy struggling to meet the needs of everyone: their children, their husbands, their bosses, their parents, their homes, etc. We often assume that our husbands know that we love them and that we are doing the best we can. Unfortunately, these assumptions can sometimes ruin a marriage.
Make him fall in love again: So, I hope now you have a little more insight as to why the marriage may have gone cold. You may not believe me when I say this, but you actually have a huge advantage here. You already know what it takes to make your husband fall in love with you. Now, he just needs to channel the woman he first fell deeply in love with when they were dating. Yes, you are older now. Yes, you have more responsibilities. I realize I’m asking you to spend more time, but the rewards you’ll get in return will be worth it.
Understand that when your husband first fell in love with you, there were several things that came into play. There was the chemistry that came from all the time, effort, and affection you put into the relationship. There were the positive feelings that you were able to arouse in her husband about himself. And there were shared experiences that they enjoyed together. So all these things must be present to bring back the original love.
Often a change of scenery is needed. Don’t do the same boring things with your husband that he has become immune to. He creates new memories. Shake things up a bit and show him that you know he’s worth your best and sincere effort.
Why do I feel like I’m doing all the work in my marriage?: Usually at this point I have wives who say “what you say makes sense, but this isn’t fair. I’m the one doing all the work and making all the changes. He’s not doing anything.” the same for me.” Not yet. But please listen to me.
By giving your husband more of what he wants and needs, you will surely get his wants and needs in return. When you were deeply in love with this man, did it feel like hard work? Of course not. You were happy to do things to validate it and lighten the load on it because you also got paid. You saw his happiness and pride when he looked at you, it was nice to be around him, and since he felt loved, he loved you too. Please don’t keep count. She will frustrate her efforts. Marriage is give and take. And, when you truly love someone, you know that what you give will always come back to you.
