Why do some single women date married men? After all, relationships with unavailable partners often result in heartbreak. Most men never leave their wives, and the ones who do are not a bargain – they are the type of men who cheat on their wives.
But women who date married men know it from the start. So what is the reward for getting involved with one?
She is attracted to him because he is already involved with someone else. In many cases, the boy would not arouse the Other Woman if he were not. The fact that it was “taken” is proof of its suitability. The fact that another woman’s husband wants her is proof of her.
Forbidden relationships are full of desire, suspense, and excitement. Married men are only available occasionally; the man’s wife may be sick of looking at him, but the Other Woman never knows when he can sneak out to be with her. She is eager to see him and makes the most of their time together.
Consciously, the Other Woman may long for him to leave his wife, but unconsciously she is glad that he probably won’t. She will never have to take his socks off the floor, hear him yell at his kids, or use the bathroom after he has deleted 25 pages of the latest Tom Clancy.
Deep down, the woman who regularly dates (or is attracted to) married men has commitment issues. He may curse his bad luck, but he’s probably terrified of marriage. You may dread your day-to-day routine. You may fear boredom. You may be afraid that marriage will mean the end of your independence. He may also believe that all men are incapable of faithfulness. To avoid becoming vulnerable, she continually presents herself as the partner in crime rather than the potential victim.
Whatever your reasons, poaching another woman’s husband is totally wrong. And, while the wife may never find out about it, both cheaters ultimately suffer from guilt and erosion of self-respect.
If you are involved with a married man, sit down and talk to yourself. Determine what exactly draws you into a doomed and morally bankrupt relationship. Determine your fears and beliefs about men and marriage. Accept those that do not serve you or your future happiness.
Then put one foot in front of the other. Stay away from your married man and don’t look back. The guy is not a bargain.
