It happens to everyone: sex becomes routine or dispassionate. It does not have to be this way! In fact, it’s easy to get that tickle back if you try simple ideas to spark new emotions.
1. Sex 911. That’s correct, it declares a “sexual emergency.” Text your partner and tell them that you are on fire for sex ASAP and that only they can put out the fire. Send a text message that says, “Something is burning!” The next one: “It’s me!” The next one: “Put out the fire as soon as possible!” Humor can be a fun way to start sex.
2. Make a small show of affection in public. Whisper something naughty in your partner’s ear at the grocery store checkout line. Watch them while you’re stuck in traffic. Put your hand on her thigh during dinner with friends. Don’t overdo it or you may upset your partner.
3. Create a new role. If you are normally aggressive in bed, play an ignorant shy guy who needs to be taught how to respond to your partner’s sexual advances. If you’re normally a bit inhibited, become your favorite sexually safe movie or TV star of the night.
4. Put some light on the subject. If you normally keep the lights off during sex, for God’s sake turn them on! Looking at your partner’s body and letting your body be seen during sex is very exciting. If you feel bad about your body, learn to accept yourself as is, let yourself cover a little (put a sheet over those dimpled thighs) or do something about it, like eat better or exercise.
5. Now look. Keep your eyes open during sex. Watch your partner’s face as he responds to your movements. Observe your own body while your partner touches you. Not only will they enjoy sex more, but they will feel closer to each other if they look into each other’s eyes during sex.
Watch? Great sex is much easier than you think!
