Once in his life, if you ask a man, has it crossed his mind in his young life that he dreams of dating an older woman. The ones that came out and tasted the oldest fruits, we call them cougars. With me, I almost fulfilled this dream. But I stopped.
This happened one night at a local club when I was still a pup of twenty, dreamy but excited about the new things I was experiencing, including entering that bar for the first time. A lady approached me thinking that she was alone. I was with my friends; they were wilder and let me dance with girls they just met. The lady I was with started talking to me and offered to buy me a drink. She obviously had more experience talking things over and managing people that she convinced me to dance with her.
After dancing and drinking, my friends and I parted ways with our own girls. In the can, my lady and I started talking about our personal lives. She told me that she was thirty-nine years old and had been “on the scene” long before I knew I had a penis and started doing pleasurable things with it, like masturbating. That was an affront of him to say that, I told him. I also told him that I grew up in a conservative family with such a clean lifestyle that I wasn’t even allowed to date girls until I was eighteen. I told him about my first experience and my dreams of pursuing a medical career.
We went to his house and he began to undress. She was thinking of a more romantic scene like offering a glass of wine or playing slow music, and not so fast. But she was hot and I was a young man full of alcohol and hormones that I didn’t mind disturbing. He started licking my neck and I started groping her nether regions. Then I felt the blows.
I pushed back and asked what they were and she said she had herpes. I asked her if she intended to tell me that she had a sexually transmitted disease before proceeding with our carnal activity. She said that she would tell me, only if she asked. I got angry and confused because I picked up my clothes and left her apartment and left without saying anything.
When I got home, I was frustrated. But instead of going to bed, I decide to look up herpes and check the statistics and research done on this disease. I found that the group of people infected with the largest number is middle-aged people.
The main reason they have a high rate is because they have finished parenting, feel they no longer need contraception, and practice safe sex. Another cause is that because they have had the same partner for years, or feel that all the partners they have are the same, they no longer see the point of getting tested for STDs. I thought it was silly because even if there is no sexual activity involved, people still get STDs through simple skin contact.
I was alarmed because I almost caught a disease. If it weren’t for my prior medical education, I wouldn’t know the difference between STD symptoms and the bite of the mother mosquito. Also, it was nice that even if I was in heat and intoxicated, I was using my head and not thinking with my penis. If people cannot practice safe sex, they should avoid sex altogether.
STDs and middle-aged people: Reported cases of sexually transmitted diseases in middle-aged people have now increased. Read my story.
