1. lower expectations. Flirting is fun, that’s all! If you start flirting expecting a relationship, some amazingly witty and magical conversation every time, then you will only be disappointed and might end up a bit desperate. Remember, you’re only in this to have fun and hopefully meet some cool new people.
2. accessible look. Even if you are nervous, try to relax. Remember to smile and laugh. Use body language to indicate that you are single: turn your body slightly out into the room and scan. No one will approach someone emitting hostile signals or who is fully engaged in a conversation with their friend.
3. read body language. Take a look at the people you are interested in and look for signs that they are interested. Do they give you the look back? Are your body or feet slightly turned towards you? Neither of these signals is safe, and it’s much easier to tell if someone is interested when you’re actually talking to them. Watch out for signs like
Four. make eye contact. Studies show that you have to look at someone at least three times before they approach you. Don’t stare, but make sure your gaze lasts for a couple of seconds. Be sure to smile and look away slowly. If you look back and the person is looking at you, they are probably interested.
5. To talk! Gather your courage and take the first step. It doesn’t have to be anything major, just casual small talk, but it’s a start. Your approach will probably depend on where you are. A conversation in a restaurant or bar will be different than one spent waiting in line at the supermarket! Start with harmless topics and commonalities: the weather, the location, the activity, whatever is going on. If things go well, you can move on to deeper topics later.
6. Give the person your full attention.. She listens carefully, laughs at her jokes, and doesn’t get distracted by what’s going on around her. It’s actually more important to appear interested than interesting. Being a good listener is more important to successful flirting than being witty.
7. Try a casual touch. If things are going well and you feel like there’s chemistry, you might want to try a playful touch. Safe touches are, for example, briefly but naturally touching someone’s arm or hand as part of conversation. Be careful to gauge her reaction: if she seems defensive, uninterested, or not ready, then back off. It often takes women longer than men to feel comfortable with people entering their personal space, while men generally feel more comfortable from the start.
8. Close the deal. If you like someone and things are going well, bite yourself and say so! Ask if you can have their phone number or email address, and if possible, make an appointment. If the person tells you no, don’t take it personally, it just saved you a lot of time and possibly money! This will be much better used on the next person you flirt with who says yes!
