Stephen’s heart is in the right place. He genuinely cares for his girlfriend, but he seems to continually disappoint her. As much as Stephen tries to express his deep feelings and love for his girlfriend, his efforts often fall short.
You are often disappointed and frustrated. Stephen worries that his girlfriend will break up with him and find someone else who can love her the way she wants to be loved.
He confides in a friend: “I don’t know how to love her!”
If you are in a romantic relationship or marriage and you feel that your attempts to show your love for your woman are not going the way they should, you are not alone.
Many men find it difficult to love their women the way they want to be loved. You may be racking your head looking for a better way to express your love for the special woman in your life.
When you have an idea, it can seem like a risk to act on it. What if she doesn’t like it and you spend all the time and money to make this happen? What if you end up looking like a fool?
Even when you can get an idea of how you can show your wife how much you adore her, worries like these can keep you from taking the necessary steps to carry out your plan.
The bottom line here is this: When you don’t regularly show your love for your woman, she has to guess how you feel. Even if you have told her that you love her and that she is important to you, you probably want to hear this more than once or twice and on special occasions.
Expressing mutual love and appreciation is an essential component of a healthy love or marriage relationship.
Try these tips to enlighten your woman by loving her the way she wants to be loved …
# 1 question!
This may seem too obvious, but I must remind you anyway. If you have no idea how your woman wants to be loved, be willing to ask her.
Even if you are the type of person who likes surprises, chances are that you also like surprises that are preferable to you.
Find the courage to ask your wife a question like this …
“What words, actions, gestures, or gifts would help you feel special and loved?”
Invite her to list anything and everything, no limits are allowed. Encourage her to delve into this question.
Perhaps he would like you to take on more responsibilities at home or taking care of children, for example. Perhaps she would love to be invited to a sensual spa night at home with you giving the massage. Or it could be that you just want to hear him tell you more often that you are beautiful (without being asked).
# 2: Really listen and comply.
When your wife gives you this information, focus and listen. If you are not sure what he is talking about, ask him to “Please tell me more.”
She might ask you the same question about how you want to be loved. If so, be open, honest, and specific. Give him the benefit of “inside information” like the one you just received.
Now is the time for you to move on.
I do not advise you to force yourself to say or do something that does not come from your heart. Let your love for her be your motivation … even if this is something new and a bit uncomfortable for you.
If you are not used to doing whatever you choose from your request list, you can set reminders for yourself. You could even use a cell phone or email calendar to help with this.
Even if your budget and time are tight, you can still make it more clear to your woman that you love and treasure her. Genuine words and meaningful gestures can be very powerful.
When you asked your wife to tell you how she wants to be loved, she probably felt special. Asking him showed that he really cares. Next, when you actually do some (or all) of these things, show your love even more.
