The basic need of a woman is acceptance. A woman needs to feel unconditionally loved and appreciated. When God created woman, He made her from a man’s rib so that she would be acceptable to him. After God presented it to him, Adam said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh,” which means that he accepted it fully and unconditionally. Therefore, it is true that throughout the centuries, women have sought acceptance from men and this is a vital part of their lives.
From the time a girl is born, it is important that the male figures in the family, that is, the father and siblings, accept, love and appreciate her. Any form of rejection at this tender age causes very serious damage to this girl’s personality. It also follows that, later in life, any form of rejection of a woman by the men in her life, be it boyfriend, husband or lover, also has very adverse effects.
Having studied some of the effects of rejection in a woman’s life, I have ranked them in the top three:
Low self-esteem
When a woman is rejected, her self-esteem takes a severe blow. My English thesaurus describes self-esteem as: self-worth, sense of worth, confidence, or self-respect. So one can imagine what this woman goes through when she loses her sense of worth or self-respect. It is common to find young people who live in adverse conditions, are engaged in prostitution, crime and drugs. They grow up as reckless women condemned to the garbage dumps of society. Even when a girl grows up being accepted by the men in her family, but is not accepted later in life by a lover, boyfriend or husband. Life can take a turn and we find women who grew up in respected, well-educated families or with meaningful careers, but who are reckless or weakened due to lack of self-respect.
Wasted time and money
Women spend a lot of time and money trying to look good or trying to buy acceptance. Thousands of dollars are spent every day buying fashionable clothes, some of which are only worn once and thrown away. A lot of money is spent on cosmetics, perfumes, jewelry, hairstyles, and facelifts. All this in the hope that men will notice and accept them. Please don’t get me wrong, you need basic hygiene and makeup to look good and clothes that are nice to fit you; but there is the other extreme that I am talking about; the obsession. Some women virtually live very artificial lives in front of the mirror or in shopping malls, just to look good. A lot of time and money is wasted and in most cases, men do not realize it or realize it, but they simply do not take these women seriously. When they need meaningful relationships, they go back to basics and choose the most basic or straightforward woman.
Stolen peace and joy
It follows then that when a woman worries about seeking acceptance and concentrating her efforts on this single issue, she is not at peace. They rob you of life satisfaction or inner joy. It is not easy to be calm or happy when one feels rejected because a vacuum is created in the inner man.
While thinking a lot about this aspect of life, I realized that rejection is the worst enemy of women because it causes them to lose self-respect, waste time and money, and lose peace and joy. It is also true that a woman needs to be loved and accepted by the men in her life to complete God’s original plan when He created her. It is also vital that women return to their creator to report cases of rejection and allow him to restore them to integrity according to his original plan.
