Probably most of the men who want to learn how to attract women subconsciously think that it will be an easy task that can be learned quite quickly. I mean, how hard can it be? All you have to do is watch what successful men do and then duplicate it. However, when some guys finally try to do that and find that it’s not as easy as it sounds, they give up and quickly move on to the next “quick fix”.
The problem here is that when you are unconsciously trying to attract women, you are already doing it wrong. Why? Because you are trying! First we have to remove the word “try” because if you try to do something, you are doing it consciously and not unconsciously. If you want to be the guy who subconsciously attracts women, there can’t be a “Now I’m subconsciously trying to attract this woman”, you have to adopt a certain mindset first.
There’s a reason I brought up this whole “trying” part in the first place. I want you to know that there will be men (hey, maybe even you!), who get into situations where they are interacting with women and when they notice that this is not working, they try to force it. This means: get into their heads and think of specific steps to take on how to subconsciously attract women to make it work. However, this cancels out the whole subconscious part of attracting and won’t help them in the slightest.
When you are in an environment surrounded by women and you constantly think that you need to start acting in a specific way in order to attract women, you are missing the point of attraction. To get to the point of unconsciously attracting women, you need to take the necessary action not in the moment (when you’re trying to attract a woman) but before you’re in it. This means: you have to do everything in advance so that your interactions are on “autopilot” (you do things unconsciously) and not forced (you get in your head trying to figure out what to do next).
Some men find it easy to unconsciously attract women. The pick-up community calls them naturals because they are incredibly successful with women without knowing exactly what they are doing. They are masters at subconscious attraction. To reach their level (and even go beyond) we have to learn and adopt their behaviorism and mindset.
To get to the point of subconsciously attracting women, you have to work on yourself. And trust me, this requires a lot of work to improve yourself. Otherwise, you will never reach the subconscious attraction stage! So let me give you the main ones you need to start improving:
Your attitude. Having a positive attitude is a very important quality. Your attitude is what decides if you can attract women. The correct attitude for attraction should be total indifference. No, not about the woman but about the situations you will be in. This means you can’t think about things that can happen to you in interactions, what to do in a given situation, how to respond to women, how a woman responds to you, or if you get the girl. The point is: you should not care how all of your focuses and interactions go!
your mindset You have an unshakable mindset when no one except yourself can define who you are as a person. This also means that your mindset is so strong that even the harshest rejection from a beautiful woman cannot harm her. You know for a fact (not believe) that any woman would be lucky to have you (this is true for you now, but you probably don’t believe it yet). Such a mentality cannot be faked when you haven’t really internalized it and without this, it is almost impossible to subconsciously attract women.
Your body language. Your body language must be aligned with your words and actions. It should be second nature to you. Yes, I could force this and probably succeed too, but this won’t make it a subconscious action, will it? You really need to internalize this. A woman should take one look at you and immediately think that you are different from all other guys. But, if you can stay confident and consistent, your body language more often than not corrects itself: you’ll look more confident when you’re confident.
Constant repetition. If you want to make something permanent, the things you do come naturally to you (subconsciously), you have to repeat them. You can’t just wake up one morning and decide that you now have a new ability. Your subconscious doesn’t work that way! It’s like learning to ride a bike. First, it’s hard and you fall most of the time, but after a while you feel it and it becomes second nature to you. But you have to repeat, repeat, repeat!
Maybe now you’re a little disappointed that I didn’t give you the specific steps you need to take to subconsciously attract women. But as I said before, this process will take time and effort and cannot be learned quickly. To learn how to subconsciously attract women, you must first learn to do it consciously and not the other way around.
Subconscious attraction is not something you do but something you are. It can’t be faked or forced and there is no fake until you knit it. A guy who is serious about learning how to attract women must first work on himself, so that the subconscious part comes out naturally (as he should).
